As human beings, we have the ability to relate, have empathy, and compassion for others — which is a beautiful thing. But for a long time I didn’t know the difference between having compassion for someone and taking their problems and emotions on as my own.
It is important to recognize negative energy and where its coming from in order to maintain healthy energetic and emotional boundaries. Using the following tools you can interact with loved ones, friends, coworkers, and complete strangers without taking on their negativity.
But first I want to give you an example of what it looks like to take on someone else's negative energy:
I arrive to work in a good mood, ready for my shift. My coworker has already been at the desk for a few hours. She is in a really bad mood. She hasn't said a word but the look on her face is not pleasant. Her negativity starts creeping towards me and leaking into my emotional body. Shit, I feel her bad vibes in my stomach now. Right when it hits me, she opens her mouth and starts complaining. She says, "This is my least favorite shift, I really do not want to be here. Screw this. They keep messing with my schedule." I reply, "Oh dang... I'm sorry. I know how irritating it can be when you get moved around a lot. Hopefully next week you'll get the schedule you prefer."
In this example I took on some of her negative energy because a) I said "I am sorry" b) I felt her bad vibes in my stomach.
Using your words as a tool to set emotional boundaries:
First tip: DO NOT tell you're co worker, or anyone for that matter, "I am sorry" because then you are sorry for something that has nothing to do with you or is not even your fault.
I used to do that all the time- tell people "I'm so sorry." I now say, "That must be hard for you."
That sentence leaves the problem with them. I can still have compassion for the person- relate, listen, understand, and offer advice if they want feedback- but I do not tell them "I am sorry." Second tip: I also have the choice to not say anything at all if I don't feel like partaking in that interaction.
Using prayer & visualization to set energetic boundaries:
This prayer to Archangel Michael is a helpful tool that will protect you from feeling other people’s negative energy. And let’s be honest there is a lot of that out there in the world. If you do not believe in angels, you do not have to address Archangel Michael. You can adjust the verbiage of the prayer and say it more as an intention to protect yourself.
With this prayer you're not only providing protection for yourself, but you're also protecting others from your negativity. This is a good prayer to say/ intention to set every morning, especially when you are physically sick or feeling vulnerable for whatever reason.
When saying this prayer, visualize a silver shield surrounding you, like a two foot bubble extending from every direction. Silver has reflective properties and is a good color to visualize, but if there is another color that symbolizes protection for you, then use that color. This prayer helped me tremendously in 2016-2017 when I was going through hard times, I sincerely hope it helps you!